In our family, we care about each other. Sometimes that care verges on meddling, but usually it’s the genuine wanting-to-help kind of care that large extended families from immigrant backgrounds share. So when some is hurting, we put our heads together to see how we can make it better. Yesterday, as we were doing this at yet another 1am brainstorm session of aunts and nieces, something dawned on us. We realized that the “problem” was all of ours, and each of us has a puzzle piece that, when added to the conversation, would solve the problem. What we realized is that for change to happen, none of us can hold back. If each elder, middle-ager, young parent, and child truly gives their gifts, everything changes, And so we each committed to our own piece.