Buyer Beware: You can’t do this alone.

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Truth Byte #5: If you want to navigate your inner landscape, you need a compass.

How do you measure the success of your relationships? Is it by how many likes or followers you have on a particular social media site? Is it how many missed calls you have when you turn your phone on silent at the movies? Is it how many people light up when they see you? Is it how many times a week your mother tries to reach you? It is hard to know how to measure whether or not we are succeeding in human relationships. It is even harder to know if we have weeded the garden of our inner space. Read More

Admit it’s broken, and let me fix it.

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Truth Byte #4: You probably do need help after all.

I am tired of people telling me they are fine when they are so clearly NOT fine. Your marriage is breaking apart at the seams. That equals not fine. You are grumpy when you leave for work, and grumpy after you come home. That equals not fine. The only time you can relax is after you have had a drink or two, and only if it's a long weekend. That equals not fine. We are a nation of unhappy people masquerading as “fine”. And I am here to call bullshit. Read More

Baking the Cake of my Life

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Truth Byte #2: "When you are ready, you will start."

I have spent years feeling bad about not starting.  I finally finished my Ph.D. and it was time to hang up my shingle and get to work.  I had all the resources, all the book knowledge, all the cheerleaders I needed, but something just wasn't working.  My business wasn't launching the way I knew it could.  I have been reflecting over the last year why it took me so long to really get started.  What I realized was really quite simple and equally profound: I wasn't ready.

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Want to win the money game?

Let's talk about money.

Why do some people have it while others don't? Why are some people able to make
more and more and more of it while other people seem to struggle with holding on to
it long enough to ensure their basic survival? Money seems pretty complicated, but
here's the secret:

Money is like love: when you don't have it, it's all you can think about.

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What are you so angry about?

Every so often, I notice I am surrounded by angry people. People start slamming doors, cutting me off in traffic, and even the movies I watch seem to have angry characters! When that happens, it is the perfect time to stop, pause, and self-reflect. After all, what is around us is always inside us, and if I am noticing angry people, there's an angry Dr. Saira somewhere inside me, waiting to be acknowledged. I grew up around chronically angry people, and through my personal and professional research, have learned a lot about anger. Read on to learn how to identify your own anger, and what to do with it. This is an especially important read if you don't think of your self as angry, because the deeper your anger is buried, the more freeing it will be when you finally get it out of your system!

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Do you sabotage yourself?

It's happening. Just when you think you've resolved that old sticky problem, it comes back around to bite you. Just when you think you have kicked that habit, let go of that ex, or finally figured out how to get through to your kids/boss/annoying neighbours, things start unravelling at the seams. As Winter creeps up on us and darkness settles in, the inner saboteur has come out to play. If you feel like just when you figured it all out, things started to fall apart, then this message is for you: don't lose hope! Read More

Are you always late?

I used to be late all the time. No matter how well I planned things, I would slide into the the room ten or fifteen minutes late. It was really annoying, not only for the people waiting on me, but I even annoyed myself! Whenever I arrived somewhere I would have this sinking feeling in the pit of my stomache like I was going to get into trouble. Sometimes I was called out, and other times the hosts would graciously ignore that I was late and continue with the event.

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