Truth Byte #50
“If it’s not inspired, it’s just busy work.”
I used to be a really busy person. I rushed around from one thing to another, always feeling like I was squeezing in life between events. Even when I was with people I Ioved being around, my mind would flit on to the the next to do in my agenda.
Not inspiring. Not inspired.
It wasn’t always this way.
Years ago, during my Master’s degree in California, I met a group of incredible minds. We laughed, learned, and lived together, coming with all kinds of back stories to a space we would share for four years.
I remember dinner parties with these friends.
They would start in the early evening, and go on and on into the wee hours of the morning. We talked for hours about the newest television drama or the meaning of life, and everything in between. When I was with them, I was inspired. We made art together, wrote poetry, checked each other’s grammar for essays, and personally researched the human spirit in ourselves and each other. We participated in each other’s religious and cultural ceremonies, shared meals and gifts on Holy Days, met each other’s families, and found a home in each other. Those were days of little sleep and much reading, few boundaries and dozens of breakthroughs.
Those were the most inspired years of my life.
Fast forward twelve years.
I am a mother of two young children and I am an entrepreneur. I volunteer at least ten hours a week on professional boards, and babysit other people’s children regularly. I run a private practice as a psychotherapist and also run a household. I am the one who drops and picks the little ones from all their activities, including school, and I have a thriving and full social life with my incredible husband and our friends. Plus, I go to the gym five times a week and squeeze in a manicure and massage once a month.
I have a lot to do.
Gone are the days of endless dawdling and conversation. These days, I am one busy woman!
But until recently, that busy-ness was just busy-ness, not inspired action.
Today, I filmed an episode of my YouTube show, Today is Your Day, and we discussed the benefit of inspired action. If action is not inspired, it simply one more “have to”. And I hate “have tos”. Always have. Sucked it up and pushed through most of my life, but these days, if something is a have to, I am out.
And so these days, I am remembering what I learned from my friends in California: if it isn’t fun, why are we doing it? Anything from school picks ups, to client re-scheduling, to photocopying the class list, to folding laundry can be fun…if done in the right frame of mind.
So my challenge to you today would be to take stock of all the have tos on your own to do list. What could you just do later? And what could you never actually do well, unless it is inspired? Your answers may surprise you.